I am so sorry for your loss. I feel that what was going on with your kitty could have been allergies or possibly mites. Allergies can cause the irritation that you were seeing and if bad enough could cause him to tear himself up like you were seeing. Mites can also cause the same symptoms. There are also several skin diseases that can show the same symptoms
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